A few months ago I asked this question on my Facebook page: what?s the best piece of advice you would give to a new stepparent? The answers I got apply to experienced stepparents as well.
Here are some of them:
?Have patience. Lots and lots of patience.? (amen!)
?If the stepchild is a teen you probably aren?t going to do anything right & a lot of the child?s hurt & anger is going to be directed at you. Let love guide your decisions but don?t bend over backwards. Expect respect and nothing else. And know that they will soon grow out of it. ? ( my favorite)
?Try to go with the flow where appropriate and where possible!? (couldn?t agree more)
?Don?t worry about the other home or the other parent. Focus on what YOU do in YOUR home. Don?t talk about the other parent. Don?t compare yourself or what you do in your home to how the other parent does it to the kids. The kids KNOW the difference. They don?t need you pointing it out.? (yup, that should be a daily reminder)
?Don?t try to be perfect and don?t feel bad if negative feelings like jealousy arise. Simply look for help. It?s part of the process.? (my answer)
?Don?t loose who you are, be YOU and be a great YOU! ? (indeed!)
?Before you walk in..understand the family dynamic in regards to support/custody and access?..set down ground rules including the role each parent will play in enforcing these expectations. ? (very, very wise answer) ??Don?t take things too personally?it?s not always about you. ? by Stepville, another great page on FB
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Would love to hear your own tips. Feel free to share them in the comments section below.
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